Quite Continental Charm School: Day 23 — Go Out and Play
23/02/2012 § 1 Comment
The Quite Continental Charm School
A modern guide to creating a charmed life
Madrid, 1908. Image via the George Eastman House.
Editor’s Note: One of the best parts of working with some of my nearest and dearest on my Charm School project have been the times when a contributor has suggested a topic that I had on the brain as well, because I knew if the two of us were both thinking about it, you probably were too. Case in point, today’s topic. When Christine sent me the idea for her post (Day 8: Your Family Jewels), she enclosed an additional thought that I also had on my own list of things to talk about this month. What follows is not another guest post, per se, but I wasn’t about to omit her lovely words from the conversation. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.
Life moves pretty fast.
If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Day 23: Go Out and Play
When we are little, we eternally wish were bigger, older, allowed to stay up late and sit at the grown-up table. This emphasis on the future, on what is to come, isn’t confined to childhood. It doesn’t magically stop once we get to watch the Late Late Show. That yearning to be older is gradually replaced with the notion that we are hurtling towards our future in a runaway train with a busted emergency brake. College! Grad School! Marriage! Children! Career! Retirement! Where Grandfather Time once seemed to ignore us, he now seems to be breathing down our necks as we frantically race to tick all the boxes on the life checklist.
Today, I want to let you know that the emergency brake isn’t really busted. All your grown-up self needs to do to slow things down, to get a breather and reengage that kid who (shortsightedly) wished he didn’t have to sit at the folding card table at Thanksgiving, is to go out and play. Rediscover the things you loved to do as a child, and you will definitely receive a respite from the frantic pace of life. Did you draw as a child? Why not get yourself a new sketchbook and drawing pencils? Did you enjoy the dinosaur bones at the museum? Make a trip to visit them again. Did you play little league? Join an adult league. Whatever you love, I guarantee you will feel the same thrill you used to feel when you buy your art supplies, spy a mastodon, or step up to the plate — I know I do.
Engaging your inner kid will bring great joy to your outer adult and help you truly live in the moment. I can’t think of anything more charming than that.
By Christine, of N’East Style:
“When I feel like I’m in the thick of things or my life is a horrible mess, I always turn back to the activities that I loved to do as a child. For me a few of those things would be: read Jane Austen or Leo Tolstoy (nerd alert!), watch classic old movies (preferably starring Katherine Hepburn or Paul Newman), sit in a tree, dance in my room, go for a long walk by myself, bake a cake, knit a scarf, or draw in my sketchbook. I think it’s rather common that as you get older, you lose touch with the simple things that you really love to do, and it’s only in your youth that you have the time and stress free existence to regularly indulge in them. Yes, yoga and going on a detox diet of some sort is all fine and dandy. But for me, getting back to my early passions is what really gets me grounded and back in touch with myself. It’s something I don’t do nearly enough, but when I do it’s absolutely fabulous.”
How do you indulge your inner kid?
How will you go out and play?