Quite Continental Charm School: Day 16 – On Table Manners: Purse Placement
26/03/2013 § 2 Comments
The Quite Continental Charm School
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Day 16: On Table Manners: Purse Placement
For most people, carrying some sort of bag is a daily occurrence. My daytime purses grew exponentially in size when I made the transition from Los Angeles to New York, owing to the fact that I lost the storage capabilities of the backseat when I traded my car for a Metrocard. But today, we aren’t talking about the study tote you carry all over town. Instead, I’d like for you to turn your attention to formal occasions, and the teeny tiny evening bag.
Usually bejeweled with sparkles or rhinestones or feathers, evening bags are just about the most useless member of the purse family. Relegated to the back of the closet until it’s time for a formal affair, there isn’t much that’s going to fit inside them, aside from your phone and maybe a tube of lipstick. Most frequently they are some sort of pouch or fold-over flap clutch — or you could go all Upper East Sidey and carry a cupcake or a rubber ducky by Judith Leiber (please note: you do so at your own risk of judgment) — and usually they are without any kind of strap. So where’s a girl to put her purse when it’s time to eat?
When seated at a formal event and not using your purse, the general rule is that it should be placed in your lap beneath your napkin, or behind the small of your back in your chair. It isn’t to rest on the table or hang on the back of the chair (tacky), nor is it to touch the ground (tacky, dirty, AND bad luck). Whenever you’re in doubt, just remember this photograph of Grace Kelly. The dinner table is for your Oscar, not your purse.