04/08/2011 § 2 Comments
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I noticed you’ve got curly hair, just like me. I was wondering what products you use?
Over the years, I’ve gone through a number of phases in my relationship with my hair. (I blogged about it a few months ago, if you’d like to read it. It’s a bit wordy, so consider yourself forewarned…) But yes, my hair is definitely curly and rather full. I had a Brazillian Blowout back in the winter, which rendered my hair completely — amazingly! — straight. I loved it and completely recommend it for curly girls who want wash and wear straight hair for a couple of months. It gradually has worn off and this summer I am rediscovering my love for my curls. You can see the current state of my locks above.
Everyone’s hair is a bit of a puzzle/middle school science fair project. You’ve got to experiment until you find what works for you, but here are some of my tips for taming curly hair:
- Never ever EVER brush your curls…unless you want to look like a poodle. Curly hair should be combed through when soaking wet, and left to its own devices after that. I only use my fingers to style my hair after it is dry.
- Curly hair is thirsty. After you think you’ve put in enough product, add more. And don’t be afraid to double or triple up on your products. At present, I’m working with three or four to get the curls you see above. In the shower, be sure to use a good conditioner, as dry hair invites frizz. Lastly, unless you have super oily hair/scalp, don’t wash it every day. Try going a few days. If you absolutely can’t go without washing your hair, try merely rinsing and lightly conditioning it.
- Air drying is always best.
- Lastly, find a stylist who understands curly hair. In New York, I go to Angela Soto at the Whittemore House Salon in Greenwich Village, and I **highly** recommend her. She’s amazing.
So what’s on my hair right now? The two products you see above have been a godsend to me this summer: Je Veux Argan Oil and SACHAJUAN Ocean Mist. Both were recommended to me by Angela, and can be purchased at the Whittemore House, if you’re so inclined. I especially like the Je Veux because it conditions my hair without weighing it down — a problem I had when I tried using pure argan oil. The Ocean Mist does an excellent job of defining my curls, especially in the morning after I’ve slept on them. I’ve also heard good things about Fekkai Beach Waves and Bumble and Bumble Surf Spray.
My summer regimen is as follows:
- Wash, comb through a deep conditioner (the only time I comb my hair), wrap hair in towel to wring out excess moisture
- Apply generous amount of Je Veux Argan Oil, evenly spritz SACHAJUAN Ocean Mist, scrunch
- Air dry. Once dry, finish off with a bit of hairspray. I love Elnett.
Hope that helps. Do let me know how it goes for you!
**Sidenote** It seems like argan oil is everywhere lately, and I didn’t have the faintest where it came from, so I asked Tara Cole, holistic health and nutrition coach (and good friend/partner in crime) to explain:
“I am always on the search to uncover healthy, holistic solutions to heal the body. I discovered argan oil and its multitude of uses last year, and have been hooked ever since. This amazing oil keeps my skin young and healthy and looking fresh.
It can also be used to re-hydrate the body, reduce fine lines and wrinkles, and soothe skin ailments such as acne, psoriasis, and eczema. It can reduce appearance of scars and stretch marks, moisturize cuticles, and it’s a great way to nourish and add shine to your hair. I also dab a little on insect bites in the summer to heal quicker.
This ancient healing oil is derived from the kernels of the slow growing argan tree, exclusive to the dry lowlands of Southwest Morocco. I recommend finding an organic, cold-pressed oil for best results. I like both Josie Maran Cosmetics argan oil, and Arganica Oil.“
For help with organic questions and holistic health tips, you can visit Tara at her website, Green Tara Wellness.
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19/05/2011 § Leave a comment
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McQueen. Image via ACL. (via LIFE)
Do clothes still make the man? If so, in your opinion what single item of clothing most typifies the modern gentleman?
My dear, what a lovely question you’ve posed! As you have probably gathered, I am a woman who has a deep appreciation for menswear. Throughout my life, I have found myself surrounded by men who have taken a particular interest in their personal style — albeit widely varied in taste and approach. I always tend to fancy a bit of a dandy, so it should come as no surprise that I have known and loved my fair share of peacocks, my father being the first, and the progenitor of this inclination.
My own personal style shows the influence of the men in my life — often because I tend to steal things from the ones I love most — and the fact that I grew up something of a tomboy. I loved horses, played a lot of soccer and didn’t wear any makeup until my mother gave some to me for my 16th birthday. Naturally, my inclination is to dress a bit like a boy. My shirt almost always will have buttons on it. I wear ties, I like grandpa sweaters with suede elbow patches and I have a weakness for smart blazers. Sometimes I look like I should be mucking out a stall in my riding boots and work shirt, but the lawyer in me also loves a good suit. Somehow I also relish being a girl and dressing like a woman. I love dresses and sky-high heels. I adore silk and lace and I almost always have red nails. My favorite looks incorporate both of these leanings, yielding a look I call “polished tomboy.”
Cherie, I feel uniquely positioned to answer this question for you. My point of view on menswear is that of a lady who eyes your wardrobe appreciatively, with an eye on what I might squirrel away for my own. However, in order to round out the conversation, I’ve also asked a few of my nearest and dearest to also chime in to see if we can’t make this a more well-rounded conversation.
Will Price, of The Momentum of Failure:
I feel, to a certain extent, yes, the clothes make the man. A simple example would be the face value effect. Two men show up for a job interview for the same position. One man in a ripped t-shirt, baggy shorts, and flip-flops, while the other man is dressed to the nines in a suit and tie. Based on appearance alone, 9 times out of 10, the man in the suit will be given priority regardless of character. This also depends heavily on where the interview is. But in this instance, the clothes made the man. They made him appear readier and more willing and able to do the job. Sure, the guy could turn out to be a psychopath that ends up going nuts with an uzi after being let go for not meeting quarterly quota, but the fact is, he got the job. But what of the man in the shorts? Well let’s be honest: If he showed up to a job interview where the heads of the company smile on suits, he probably wasn’t too serious about the gig. But had the same scene gone down at an REI or an outdoors-enthusiast spot, the tables might have been turned.
We’re a shallow society. A generalization, sure, but it’s much easier to judge someone by appearance first and character second. So aiming to please visually is natural. Plus when you think you look good, you feel good. So, to make a long story a bit longer, the clothes make the man, but the man makes the choice. So, you really make yourself.
In terms of one single item that is typical of the modern gentleman, I would say a classic and well-built leather wallet is a must.
J.Oliver, of Downeast and Out:
The single item that typifies the modern gentleman for me is becoming cliched these days, as more and more young men are improving their standard of dress. However, if I had to boil the argument down to a single item, I still believe a pair of dark brown or walnut-colored wingtips in calf or cordovan is the item the modern man cannot do without. Yes, captoes are more formal and a navy blazer is arguably the foundation of a wardrobe, but the wingtip deserves much praise for its versatility, as it can be paired with anything from a suit to a cardigan to a t-shirt. There are also a variety of styles within the wingtip family (longwings, shortwings, oxfords, and derbies), allowing a man to still show some individuality and personal preference with his choice. And as I continue to see gents walking around in black, laceless, square-toed dress shoes, I don’t think the point that “the shoes make the man” can be emphasized enough. While I would still say that fit is the single most important element a modern gent should focus on, I believe that a nice pair of shoes are the one item that should not be marginalized. I for one will pay up for quality materials and superior construction, as I intend to enjoy and hold on to the pairs I buy for more than a few years.
Marisa Zupan, of The Significant Other:
I don’t think clothing was the only thing that ever made the man. It comes down to many other things, not least of which is passion, personality and drive. That said, I think clothing is an integral part of expressing all of the above. Some might point to the suit as the single most manly type of clothing, but I’d say it actually just comes down to the shoes. My grandmother once said, “you can see a whole man through what he chooses to put on his feet”, and I’ve never forgotten this. Shoes, and all of the considerations that go into them, are a very personal and functional item. Beautiful shoes, no matter if they’re sneakers, work boots or wingtips can tell you where a man wants to go, and how dedicated he is to getting there. Invest in a good pair that fits your lifestyle and you better believe it will pay off. The ladies, they notice these things, take our word for it.
Cooper Samuels, of To Take The Train
To be honest, I didn’t start caring about clothes or the way I dressed until a couple of years out of college. My first job was at a record label and I wore jeans and a polo to work every single day. I could never get used to the idea of wearing a t-shirt, flip flops, and shorts to work like many of my co-workers. It just didn’t feel right, so I figured jeans and a collared shirt would be somewhere in the middle. If I would wear nice shoes and sport coat to work, someone would inevitably ask me who died.
In the south, southern frat style dominates men in their 20’s. If you go to a southern school you are issued a pair of patagonia standup shorts, a frat t-shirt, croakies, and rainbow flip flops. One night when I was out in downtown Nashville, I looked around and noticed every dude was dressed the same. It drove me nuts. How are you supposed to stand out if you look exactly like the guy next to you? It was then that I realized it’s time to start paying more attention to the way I dress, so I cleaned out my closet and got rid of everything I had purchased from the time I graduated high school to that point. I invested in some nice suits, shoes, and dress shirts. I retired my baggy jeans and bought a pair that fit. I also started to take notice of the way other people dressed. What I’m trying to say with this back story is that clothes still make the man. I think men pretend not to notice what other men are wearing, but the truth is they do.
To me the item of clothing that most-typifies the modern gentleman is his shoes. I’m not scared to save and spend money on shoes. You can make a cheap suit look good by finding a great tailor, but you can’t hide a cheap pair of shoes.
I believe that a man is a sum of so many different parts: respect, strength, self-confidence, gallantry, curiosity, bravery, love. Taking pride in one’s appearance is undoubtedly one of these elements, so thus, if someone’s got everything else under control and then adds some great clothes to the mix, then it could be said that clothes “made” (or completed) that man. Conversely, if you’re a jackass, but dress well, you’re still just another jackass in bespoke.
As for the single article of clothing that most typifies the modern gentleman, I strongly agree that good shoes are important. I will admit that shoes are among the first things I will check when sizing up a gent. You must invest in at least one solid, quality pair of shoes. When confronted with the price, take comfort in the fact that a good pair of shoes will be with you for years. I have lovely memories from when I was a little girl, of my father sitting in the living room watching the Lakers with his wooden shoe shine box, lovingly tending his tasseled loafers, frequently pointing out he owned shoes that were older than I was. (And yes, he still has these shoes. And yes, they are still older than I.)
Other things that will catch my eye will be the glasses and tie you might be wearing (and I hope you’re wearing both, but that’s just personal preference), the fit of your clothes and your choice of socks (or better yet, lack thereof). But above all, there is one small item that I believe speaks volumes about you — at least to me, anyway. It’s your watch.
In my opinion, the wristwatch most typifies the modern gentleman. A man’s choice of timepiece will speak loudly to me. I’ll first note the style, then after a bit I might try to gauge up the age and price you probably paid, and then I will take a step back and try to figure out why you chose that particular watch — what is it about this watch that drew you to it? What are you trying to say about yourself by choosing it?
I’ve mentioned it a few times already, but I frequently wear one of my father’s watches that doesn’t work. I’ve always preferred to wear men’s watches because I have a sizable disdain for dainty twee lady watches. I want something handsome and substantial on my wrist, just like I like my men. I clearly remember the first watch I specifically asked for, when I was 8. It was a large, men’s Timex with a round, white face and a dark brown braided strap. The strap was so long on my 8 year-old girl’s wrist that I had to loop the strap back under itself to deal with all the extra slack. I also took to wearing it on my right hand, even though I was right-handed — something I continue to do to this day. The point here is that I’ll be wondering about the story behind your watch of choice.
In my life, I’ve known a few watches (and their owners). There was the refined gent who alternated wearing a dazzling Chopard — that I frequently joked cost more than my first car — with a cheapie plastic Timex Ironman because he loved to swim and run. He tended to wear the Ironman more, even with his fine suits. So much so that I sometimes had to remind him it was “big boy watch time.” There was the upstart who wore the diamonds in his bezel with so much swag, it became tiresome. There was the handsome executive/repressed creative who favored switching the bands on his antique field watches so that a flash of Hermes orange would peek out of his cuff at board (bored) meetings, unexpectedly.
I don’t design to tell you what kind of watch you should be wearing. Aim for something that pleases your eye and is appropriate for your wallet. You should be wearing the kind of watch you like. You should also wear it in the manner you like, just like Gianni Agnelli above. But rest assured, I’ll notice whatever you’ve got on your wrist, and I’ll want to hear all about it.